Thinking specifically about male/female interaction, particularly in bars or clubs, when did it become socially acceptable to stick your tongue down the throat of a stranger? To expect someone you've never met before to go to bed with you? To kiss someone before asking their name?
Seems to me that we're missing some stages out? It just seems to show a disregard or disrepect of each other. Is our generation so hedonistic that all that matters is selfish pleasure?
Seems to me that we're missing some stages out? It just seems to show a disregard or disrepect of each other. Is our generation so hedonistic that all that matters is selfish pleasure?
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I agree completely - it's hugely depressing. I think it misses the point completely and is ridiculous.
I think that these things have always gone on, but it has not always been socially as acceptable as you say. Sex in Western democracy has since the 70's become more and more of a commodity spawning a multi-billion pound market of pornography and therewith brutalising the nature of human relationships. When sexual relationships are just another 'thing' to be traded, then as with many other commodities, the nature of the trade is not seen as important as the fact that it happens. We are all sadly cheapened by this.
It does seem a purely 'now' social thing. I hate it so much, i'm anti any sort of social stuff like that because it makes me uneasy. I've seen so many people go through the 'lets see how many people we can 'get off with' in a night'.
Bleurgh.
Speaking as someone who used to do that kinda thing before I got on track with God......
at the time it seems just a laugh and a fun thing to do, and it does make you feel good because someone wants you. But afterwards its crap, because you realise how superficial it all was.
It's all down to the fact that people are living for the moment and blow the consequences. "If it feels good, do it". Kissing feels good, it's natural, do it! In this context, it doesn't matter who with or for how long, just go for it. What worries me about sex is if it is being "consumed" for pleasure now, what happens when you meet someone special and the sex becomes a little "boring" or "tame". If all that is persued is freshness, novelty and thrills, where is the room for warmth, difficulties and tenderness? That's all part of a sexual relationship with someone. And the rewards are greater than the pleasure seeker could possibly imagine. But they'll never know because they are constantly seeking the next big thrill. Shame.
I think perhaps it's become more socially acceptable lately even though it's been going on for a while, the Offspring wrote the lyric 'Sex is like a drug' and it's kinda true, people take drugs for the feel good factor and sex and kissing has almost become like that, it's a quick fix, of course in the right context kissing is fine but kissing with no meaning is pointless
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